Couples Therapy

Understanding Each Other and Finding Your Way Together

Relationships can be some of the most meaningful and challenging parts of our lives. Even when we love and care deeply for one another, we can find ourselves caught in familiar patterns of conflict, misunderstanding, distance, or disappointment. Sometimes we have the same arguments over and over, while other times we stop talking about what matters because we no longer believe we will be understood. We may struggle with intimacy, trust, communication, or the feeling that we have grown apart. In our work together, I want to create a space where both of you can feel heard, understood, and supported in exploring what is happening between you. Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, we will work to understand how each of you experiences the relationship, what you need from one another, and how you may be unintentionally contributing to the patterns that keep you feeling disconnected.

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My approach to couples therapy is grounded in Gestalt Therapy and relational work, where we pay attention not only to what you tell me about your relationship, but also to what happens between us during our sessions. Together, we will explore how you communicate, respond to one another, express emotions, and navigate differences. Sometimes the most meaningful discoveries happen when we slow down a conversation and notice what each person is experiencing in that moment. We may experiment with new ways of expressing feelings, listening, or responding to one another, allowing you to experience something different rather than simply talking about what needs to change. I also incorporate Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which offers practical skills for managing intense emotions, tolerating difficult moments, and communicating needs more effectively. By bringing these approaches together, we can develop a deeper understanding of your relationship while also finding practical ways to navigate the challenges you face.

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I believe that a healthy relationship is not one where two people always agree, meet every need, or avoid conflict. It is one where both people can remain connected to themselves while also making room for the experience of the other. In our work, we will explore how each of you can express who you are, recognize your own needs, and become more curious about your partner's experience without losing yourself in the process. We will also look at the strengths and meaningful connections that already exist between you, even when they have become difficult to recognize. I do not see my role as deciding what your relationship should look like or telling either of you how to change. Instead, the three of us will work together to understand what is happening, discover new possibilities for connection, and create a relationship that feels more authentic, supportive, and meaningful to both of you. Ultimately, my hope is that our work helps you develop greater trust in yourselves and one another, strengthen your capacity for intimacy, and find your own way forward together.

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